There are no words…
Because I can’t actually fathom speaking or writing these words more often than I already have, here is the most unlikely possible update I could have ever imagined needing to share. {Update: if you click on the link you will see that Andrew Stanton @geekstanton has decided to delete the blog post that I wrote on his behalf to announce that I had to break our engagement (because he had made it impossible for me to marry him by repeatedly lying and misrepresenting himself – A bit more on that here)}
I will not be making any other comments. Needless to say, I anticipate a shift in how I use social media. As my wise friend Greg said to me, you put yourself out there in the first place, so now you have to deal with this accordingly…. Touché.
P.S. Yes, I do feel like this is an inappropriate way to share the news and makes me seem like I think people actually care, but as I hope you can appreciate, even uttering the words to explain the above once is a heartbreaking and humiliating proposition… This may be a cowardly way to get out of having to do this over and over, it’s the only way I can do it, for now.
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Melissa:
July 18th, 2011 at 1:39 pm
:( Thinking of you..
Sasha:
July 18th, 2011 at 5:59 pm
Yes, you do put yourself out there. Which means there is an even bigger crowd of people who want to give you a great big hug and wish you the best.
Take care,
Sasha
Fleur de lotus:
July 18th, 2011 at 6:01 pm
thank you Melissa…
Fleur de lotus:
July 18th, 2011 at 6:02 pm
Thank you – I am very lucky to have people who care about me all around. That said, I definitely think this will change what I share…
Annie @ PhD in Parenting:
July 18th, 2011 at 7:57 pm
Many, many hugs to you, my friend. :(
Fleur de lotus:
July 18th, 2011 at 8:01 pm
thanks Annie. As I have learned today, the biggest shame in all of this was actually opening up about it. Now that I have I can move on. Baby steps.
Thegrumpymama:
July 19th, 2011 at 2:49 am
There should be no shame. We are all standing here with open arms and hearts. Thinking of you at this difficult time. I am so sorry.
Lara:
July 19th, 2011 at 1:21 pm
I don’t think it’s an inappropriate way to share at all. This is a hard and painful time, not having to talk about it over and over is totally understandable.
You have a lot of people who love and support you and we will all be here if and when you need us.
Hugs!
solemom:
July 19th, 2011 at 3:51 pm
So many hugs.
Loukia:
July 19th, 2011 at 3:52 pm
Oh Stephanie. I am so sorry to hear this news. I really, really am, and don’t know what else to possibly say. I will see you this week. Stay strong, beautiful. If you need to chat, you know where to find me. xo
Fleur de lotus:
July 19th, 2011 at 3:57 pm
thank you Loukia. I don’t know that there is anything to say really. I have cried, screamed, laughed, sat in disbelief… Needless to say I am still going through the many emotions this will carry mt through. And thank you – I do know where to find you :) xo
Maria @BOREDmommy:
July 19th, 2011 at 3:57 pm
I am so sorry for what you’re going through. You don’t deserve a second of it.
Fleur de lotus:
July 19th, 2011 at 3:59 pm
Thank you Maria – I am hanging on to that thought for dear life. It’s been a doozy of a year with really high highs, and now really low lows. If I can walk away in one piece having learned about myself I will be happy!
manda:
July 19th, 2011 at 5:28 pm
I’m so sorry, Stéphanie. Please remember that putting oneself out there (online or off) can also open one up to many wonderful experiences and a richer life, though of course what people choose to share is their prerogative and theirs alone.
you are lovely and strong and you will get through this, and be a better person for it. xo
Fleur de lotus:
July 19th, 2011 at 5:31 pm
My dear Amanda – thank you so much for your lovely note – and all the others you have sent over the past while. I think it is going to be time very soon for use to meet IRL! Thank you xo
amanda:
July 20th, 2011 at 4:34 am
ha, we did very briefly at the picnic in britannia park a couple of weeks ago, for like 2 minutes :)
Jenn of the Roof:
July 25th, 2011 at 2:35 am
Oh Stephanie, I don’t even know what to say. Only that there is a whole community of people out here who care about you and who are sending love your way! Stay strong!
Lisa:
August 25th, 2011 at 12:37 am
I’m sorry I have not been paying enough attention to others lately. So much so, I missed your news. I hope that one month later, you’re finding yourself…stronger.
We should commiserate one day, sister. I would really like that. xx
Fleur de lotus:
August 25th, 2011 at 12:44 am
I can’t believe that was you and I didn’t realize!
Fleur de lotus:
August 25th, 2011 at 12:46 am
Everyone has been really supportive and respectful. I am very lucky.
Fleur de lotus:
August 25th, 2011 at 12:47 am
I am just starting to get over the shock – it’s been an interesting month…
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